“Believe in yourself! Look good and you’ll feel good! Believe in your slay”.
Yes, these statements work sometimes and perhaps they’ll work for some time, but here’s the thing- feelings fade. And let’s be real, you won’t always believe in yourself or ‘your slay’.
Self-esteem and circumstances are what confidence outside of God leans on (and we already know what a rollercoaster those can be). Godfidence- confidence with Jesus at the root of it- it points to and centres around God (and yes, it’s a made up word but aren’t all words?)
Without fuel on the inside (its power source and what enables it to move), the most amazing car doesn’t go past merely looking amazing. There must be substance on the inside.
So where’s your fuel? What’s driving your confidence?
There’s no real confidence outside of God and we’d really be doing ourselves (especially as females) a great disservice trying to find our confidence outside of Him- reality check: you won’t find it- not one that will last anyway.
If a guy says you’re beautiful or expresses a liking for you, it shouldn’t really make you melt. “God already told me that. What else you got?” (I’m not encouraging being rude, but this should be your mindset- be careful not to build your confidence around compliments).
And when things don’t quite work out as planned, do you hit rock bottom or do you stand unshaken on the Solid Rock which you already built your house (yourself) on?
“Planted in the house of the Lord, they will flourish in the courts of our God.” (Psalm 92:13)
“Let your roots grow down into him, and let your lives be built on him. Then your faith will grow strong…” (Colossians 2:7)
Flourishing in faith comes from being planted and firmly rooted in Jesus.
Planting is a process- it’s a verb which means it involves your action.
Godfidence won’t just magically happen. You won’t just automatically be courageous and determined or find yourself not crumbling or breaking down in the midst of situations. Faith comes by hearing… hearing… hearing (present continuous) again and again… the Word of God. That means you need to keep getting it into your system. You need to keep feeding on it. You need to keep on hearing His words. Not the fleeting, sweet nothings from little Johnny but the everlasting and lavishing text messages from the One who formed you intricately, knows you deeply and loves you immensely. Absolutely nothing compares to His timeless love notes.
Confidence says “I can do this, I’m powerful and I can rely on me… until things don’t exactly go to plan”.
Godfidence says “I trust my Father completely. Without a doubt, He’ll come through for me. Regardless of whatever, He won’t leave me. His promises are true and trustworthy. I encourage myself in the Lord and not in myself”.
Isn’t it amazing that we don’t have to walk this journey alone? We have the greatest leader and cheerleader at work in us. I don’t have to pep talk or con myself into thinking “I’ve got this”. I can stand on the sure word that “Greater is He that’s within me”- 1 John 4:4.
He> …He is greater than anything.
So this is your reminder, to hope in, lean on and completely place your confidence in God who is with you and in you. The existence, ability and love of God is settled in the heart of any true believer. Settled.
This must be resolute and rooted in your heart.
So, don’t be conned into thinking that it’s okay to think “I’ve got this” but remove the con artist and let God be your make up artist; let Him be your foundation. Quit concealing your weaknesses- highlight them, expose them to Him and let His strength be made perfect in you. He’s got this and He’s got you.
(I really think I should consider spoken word but we’ll leave that for another time).
Father, please help me to stop relying on my feelings, strength, looks and ever-changing opinions. Help me to live Godfidently knowing that I am wonderful simply because you said so. I choose today to place my complete trust in You.
Peace & love.